30 Things I’ve Learned In 30 Years

Today is my 30th birthday!! Many things look very different from how I imagined they would by this age, and many things are spot on. I’m happy with where I am and even the not-so-fun things that have happened along the way. These are the bits of life I’ve picked up in 30 years; ranging from silly to practical to serious topics that took a long time to learn. Cheers to 1989!

  1. Move out of your comfort zone. If you go too long without feeling a little nervous – life has gotten to comfortable. Challenge yourself to do something that kinda scares you!
  2. Wear sunscreen. Not just at the beach, like, every day!
  3. Stop forcing relationships. This can be extremely difficult because sometimes it can be the people we care about who are toxic influences on our lives. Of course you should try to work on a relationship that’s important, but if it’s a 1 way effort, let go of the standards you’re holding them to, accept the relationship for what is, and move on.
  4. Don’t get attached to your “stuff”. The handpainted mugs you bought on your honeymoon may break when you’re on your 6th move in 3 years, but your marriage is stronger than ever. This is the stuff that matters.
  5. If I don’t take myself seriously, I cannot expect anyone else to. Take your goals and abilities seriously, believe in yourself and watch that confidence transfer to others.
  6. Be “rude”. Not really rude, but don’t be afraid to speak your truth, especially in a situation where your “niceness” is being taken advantage of.
  7. Don’t argue for the sake of arguing. Speak your truth when you need to, but know your audience. Is it really worth it to argue with someone who doesn’t matter & who will never change their mind, or should you just smile, nod and know that whatever inaccuracy they’re spouting has no affect on you.
  8. Find a job you love. Look at how much of our lives are spent working a “job”. It’s a pretty big portion & you don’t want to be miserable.
  9. I’m the only one who has to live my life. Some of us have spent way too long worrying about how other people will interpret our decisions when honestly those decisions have zero impact on their life and greatly impact our own.
  10. Don’t buy trendy clothes you actually don’t like. Just because something is the “print of the season” doesn’t mean you have to like it {cough cough! anything camo. sorry, not a hunter.}
  11. Set phone alarms for everything. Life gets busy and you think you’ll remember to call your bestie or take your daughter to ballet buttttt….we’re all human.
  12. Ask for help. A wise woman surrounds herself by even wiser women. Not everything has to be figured out on your own. If you’re trying to do something you’ve never done before, but that girl you follow on IG has, reach out!! She would probably love to help!
  13. Let go of what 15-year-old-you thought your life would look like by now. 15-year -old-you wasn’t as smart as she thought she was. Life takes all kinds of weird twists and turns and spits you out right where you need to be.
  14. Podcasts are everything. I hate “dead time” : washing dishes, driving, showering, whatever. I started listening to motivational or informative podcasts about a year ago during these passive activities and it’s been such a game changer.
  15. Not every argument has to be resolved. To be honest, sometimes the argument was dumb to begin with and it really just needs to stop.
  16. The best investment is one in yourself. If there is a training you think you could benefit from or a workout class you love; invest in it! You’ll be happier and a better person for it.
  17. Be comfortable spending time alone. Quiet time when you can be with your thoughts, watch whatever you want on tv and just not talk can be so rejuvenating.
  18. Know your worth & add tax. Take pride in the skills you’ve developed and don’t be shy about owning up to the value you bring to the table.
  19. Plan regular date nights with your spouse. I can’t even begin to tell you the difference it makes to have a night of the week set aside with something actually planned. Obviously, watching Netflix on the couch together is great, but you can do that anytime. Get OUT!
  20. Develop a “quality over quantity” mindset when it comes to friendship. I don’t need a girl squad. I need a few rock solid women in my life who I can talk to about real stuff and we’re there for each other.
  21. Give yourself grace. You’ll fail – that’s a sign of trying – and it’s ok!
  22. Buy yourself flowers. Fresh blooms brighten up a home and there doesn’t need to be a special occasion.
  23. Meet strangers for coffee. If a friend of a friend or a IG friend reaches out to make a coffee date, do it!! This is how adults make friends and that’s not an easy thing!
  24. A fruit garnish makes any drink “fancy”. I learned this one from Saige! Haha!
  25. Don’t lower your goals to match your current reality. Someone who was once in my life told me I lived in an alternate reality after hearing some of the goals I had. Needless to say, that person is no longer in my life and I’ve achieved many of those goals since.
  26. Take care of the planet. There are little things everyone can do everyday to be more environmentally conscious {check out this blog post and this one too}. Obviously my favorite planet saving action is only doing laundry every other week as opposed to every week.
  27. Give without expectations. When you’re giving with the thought that there will be an equal return, you’re going to end up disappointed. Give generously and without the need for reciprocity.
  28. Stock your closet with staples. I of all people love fun pieces in my wardrobe, but start with the basics. You should have a LBD, a pair of great fitting jeans, multiple white tops, a classic pair of heels, and a go-to handbag.
  29. Go on adventures. If you randomly feel the need to take a road trip, or go to the lake, or attend an event alone, or drive without a destination, do it! It’s fun!
  30. Let go of age. Turning 30 is a big deal for a lot of women. But my mom always told me “you’re only as old as you feel” She’s now 50 and still believes this. Besides, “I don’t know about you, but I’m feelin’ 22!” 🥳

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